Justifying in order not to accept mistakes. Source

  Yesterday I was reading a publication on the occasion of Father's Day in which the user, of recognized trajectory in the platform, told that he had three children and that in the upbringing of them he had had problems since there was no manual that said how to raise them and the experiences with their parents had not been good. In the end, he said that two of them went abroad and maintained a very bad relationship with him, while a third one continued to live at home. Justifying attitudes are so common in human beings that they end up delegating the blame to others for the mistakes they make, hence the success of the book "La culpa es de la vaca" (Blame it on the cow), since it identifies the way most people assume situations. Few are those who make mea culpa for any failure or undesirable action and that is the reason why the confessionals of the churches are always full, since for professional reasons it will never be known what they have said to the religious. To err is human, to rectify is wise, says a popular adage, but unfortunately it only serves as a consolation and not as a stimulus to accept that something has been done wrong. We see it daily in sentimental relationships where there is always one guilty party instead of both, since the consequences of a bad communication end up being the cause. The ego dominates us, the justifications are part of it, although few want to recognize it, looking for culprits is part of this passive attack against our fellow men and women and a way to free ourselves from the guilt that we know we have deep inside. As long as we do not manage to free ourselves from that burden we will not be able to be sincere with anyone because we will live tied to not recognizing that we must fail to learn and that there is the basis of experience and that when we do not have it we can nourish ourselves of the others to avoid doing things as they are not, however, we will not always achieve it.


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